Its OK to be nervous! A first time visit to a place like Menfriends can be a bit scary – most guys find it a bit of a challenge. Sooner or later you’ll probably get up the nerve to visit us and then you’ll wonder why it took you so long! On your first visit, take your time to look around the venue, see how things work and try to relax. Remember – you are in control at all times and our staffers are available with assistance or advice at any time.
Menfriends is a two floor time-out space for guys where you can relax and be yourself, socially and sexually. We would love to be able to cater to everyone but we don’t. For details see our Access Policy under F.A.Q.
Menfriends offers social space as well as space for private hook-ups. What happens inside stays inside and what you do is up to you. That can be something or nothing, your choice. Everyone is coming from their own direction – that’s good with us and it should be good with you too. It’s about respecting other guys and what they are in to. We are a no-alcohol no-drugs venue.
When you first arrive at Menfriends you will be issued a large fresh towel and a key to a locker for your clothes and personal items.
If it is a first-time visit, tell the Receptionist this when you arrive. He will point you in the right direction and explain where things are. He is also there to answer questions so don’t be afraid to ask. There are two ways to utilise Menfriends – sexually and socially. Try to do both; go at your own pace and give the venue a chance to work for you. Your chances of meeting someone are a lot better if you move about. When your visit is over, please return your towel and locker key to the Tuck Shop.
If you hook up with another guy then it should be with a guy that you want to hook up with. You don’t have to go with the first or any guy that hits on you.
Even though it is rare, if you strike a guy that wont leave you alone or take a hint, advise one of our Team. They will help discreetly. You do not have to put up with someone crowding you. A guy is entitled to ask twice – you may change your mind. More than twice we consider harassment and so should you. You can say “no” at ANY time. At Menfriends it’s cool to be sexual and explore it for real, alone or with someone else. Many guys on a first time visit go solo just to break the ice.
Our team is here to run the venue and ensure it remains a safe clean place to relax and play for everyone. It can be a tough job at times so Team members deserve your respect and compliance with any request. Please remember they are responsible for the venue and everyone in it, not just one guy.
Some tips…
Most guys just wear a towel around their waist but any of these work:
1. Towel Only
2. Towel and top
3. Fully clothed
4. Fetish
During Special Events
Our advice is to use one every time and not let anyone convince you to have sex without one – it could cause complications in your life that you just don’t need. See the Your Sexual Health tab for more details. We are not the sex police, it is your choice and responsibility. Just remember, the harder a guy tries to persuade you not to use a condom – the less he cares about what you want.
We will guard your privacy at all times during your visit and it’s a good idea to guard yours until your are certain you want to share personal details. When you first meet someone, they only know the guy standing in front of them. If you want it to stay that way, we urge caution in giving out your personal details. Make someone earn your trust in this regard – don’t give your trust too soon. If a guy is genuinely keen he will wait until you are ready to divulge those kind of details. We do not accept phone messages, phone calls or pass messages to clients or staff for any reason under any circumstances. While you are in Menfriends, as far as the outside world is concerned, you do not exist.